We meet all kinds of people in our everyday lives. Even when
it’s not otherwise everyday life, like a vacation or event, we meet a lot of
people. But there is this one certain person, who remains around you as they
love to call it—your “well-wisher”! It could be just one person or a bunch of
people, but the traits are uniform.
Needless to say, I have many a “well-wishers” in my life.
These “well-wishers” are a classic breed. They feed off
gossip from your life and a few years of sticking their ass around your
business- literally and otherwise. ;) Let’s take a male “well-wisher” for instance.
They are those people who have all the luxuries every normal person aspires
for. A house he lives in, a house he’s invested in, a top-notch sedan, a
working wife who draws the same salary as he does, a doting child, a 40 inch
led tv, a basic home set-up (with no whiskey glasses by the way!), a set of
seldom interfering parents, a set of weekender friends, all the latest Apple
gadgets-iPhone, iPad, MacBook (all bought on EMI), a wardrobe brimming with
online shopping goodies and the sundry.
His life has everything, except one- Happiness. A virtue he began seeking as he fathomed the worldly ways, but miserably lost his path on the way of material pleasures of life. Emotions, belongingness are a far-fetched dream for him. Love for his wife is a mere formality, occasionally showcased through an obligatory jig on the dance floor. While he gains a full score on all material/responsible benchmarks of life, he has every difficulty in this one aspect… being happy for you. You, who he knows is as good as him, and has massive potential of being better than him in no time.
So why is it so difficult for people to be happy for others?
Every time you do something new, they all wake up in sync
and start giving you all possible reasons why you shouldn't have done this new
thing in the first place. They are all full of random bullshit advice.
When I buy a new ‘bigger than your wardrobe’ TV, “Ohh, its
fine, you have adjusted enough for
the past year.” When I contemplate buying a new car, “Ohh, you should try that
new used car store that’s opened up
in our area.” When I buy a new ‘bigger than your face’ phone, "Ohh you should
start investing in assets".
Ohh this and ohh that!
Ohh, can I just punch you in the face please? I have adjusted enough in the past and it’s not
a used one and yes, it’ll be a major
asset for you! How wonderful does
it even feel as I write this! Imagine the pleasure of actually saying that
to my “well-wisher’s” face!
Every new decision or achievement he (well-wisher) makes,
it’s a bloody calculated one. But if you make a new decision or achievement…
Wham! “You’ve somehow got it all wrong!” Such is the conviction with which he
makes you believe it to be true.
He flaunts the "big fat cool dude who’s happy for you" mask, but beneath lies the
ugly, jealous and sadist dud who wouldn’t leave a single chance of putting you
down. Be it with some random advice, only to showcase his revolt against your
“bad judgement”.
And why are we
living around such people anyway? People who cannot digest the fact that we are
happy with our lives, or are getting somewhere on the path, to say the least.
Why are we with people who are constantly poking their noses around our
business and being friends with us only to compete each time? Why are we with
people who can say whatever they want to us and we will still be the compassionate
souls for their own good!
This world is filled with imperfect people. It is
foolishness to set out finding those who perfectly fit into our true
well-wisher zone. But the degrees of imperfection vary. And it is indeed in our
hands to decide which well-wisher to stick with and without. Knowing your inner
circle could not be any truer today. With so many situations unfolding before
our eyes every single day, we are hardly left with any capacity to deal with
the negativity that surrounds us. Especially the negativity that comes forth in
bouts, but sure exists. Our mental and emotional sanity is way important these
days. And all the floundering negativity in the form of masked “well-wishers”,
can only cause deep irreparable damage over time. Identify your true
well-wishers. Most people today cannot deal with other people’s happiness. Only
a handful can. But it’s up to us to make sure that the so-called “well-wishers”
don’t make it to the list of our genuine handful well-wishers. Cut out all the
negative people from your inner circle and surround yourself with all those who
are genuinely happy for you. And those who are genuinely happy for you… you can
sure spot them even while watching your fave show on your brand new 50 inch TV.
Beat that “well-wisher”!
Make a new achievement and share your happiness with the
first 10 people you think are your inner circle. Their words and actions will
tell you all you need to know… the gospel truth!
