Fear- A quintessential part of every individual. We all have fears. Fear that is built into our system, ever since our childhood. Fear, that would stay with us no matter how much we try to curb it. It is so intact, that it reflects in each action or reaction we have for every incident that transpires.
Fear of getting bad grades in school, fear of getting a bad college, bad friends in college, fear of choosing the wrong career, fear of getting a terrible job and an even terrible boss, fear of competition, fear of displeasing parents, fear of displeasing the spouse, fear of expenses, fear of making less money, fear of growing white hair, fear of being unable to keep up with the latest fashion trends, fear of all.
But the latest Fear of all Fears is the ‘Fear of Commitment’. With all the other fears that we have, this one tops the chart.
While in conversation with an ex colleague, I was enlightened by her incredibly amusing theory about fear of commitment.
She says, “I have a particular problem when it comes to committing to work. I refuse to commit because I do not fear anything or anyone. For me, it’s what I enjoy the most that matters. Work is not something that anyone enjoys or is genuinely happy dealing with. Eventually it’s all about the money. I do not have too much money yet I end up doing things that I enjoy the most. It’s not that I don’t like to work. It’s just that I feel work should come very naturally to a person. It should not be done under any kind of fear. Committing to work under fear makes me sick. But again, if I do not commit to work, a new fear crops up and that is, fear that I would end up broke and perpetually dependent on someone all my life. So in this case even if I decide to be fearless, fear just makes its way through.”
After listening to her, I contemplated for days. And all I came up with were more and more questions.
Why are we living under fear? Are we so addicted to it that we can’t find a way out? Has it become such an integral part of our lives that we are unable to look beyond?
It basically boils down to the fact that we have to ‘Fear to Survive’. If we can’t do away with fear, we have to live with it. Is it really so crucial for our survival? And if we have to fear in order to survive, then when do we actually live? When do we do things that we actually wish to do?
Are we just going to watch our lives go by while we live in the constant fear of what is in fact unknown and unpredictable?
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